@PeppyPatti when I finally starting learning why I made the choices I did throughout life, I also decided that anyone who continually used me for their own purposes, and didn't care if it inconvenienced or effected me in any way, they had to go from my life. I was no longer going to put up with it. And I have put a stop to running around after my family (except for my elderly mum). 5 years ago I deliberately moved out the other side of town, so I wasn't handy to them all. So I no longer speak or interact with my niece. And she always rings my mum before coming down to make sure that we don't cross paths.
Anyone who adds to my stress or mental health in anyway, get reduced time interacting with me. My mental health is important to me, and I won't let anyone affect it.
I also deliberately lost contact with a few friends who didn't always seem to have my best interests at heart and always wanted to gossip. And I feel so much better off for it. I feel lighter. 😊
