05-10-2025 06:26 PM
05-10-2025 06:26 PM
@REDLINEZ750 wrote:
@Blackcloud is RSD in leymans terms when rejection impacts feelings and self valuation more than you want it too?
to enter into a room and 20 people think im half decent and 1 person doesn't i will hone in on that person and not be able relax or enjoy the night wanting to give them good reason to reject me
Hiya @REDLINEZ750 @Blackcloud you have activated my special interest!! Hahaha
Buuuut rather than ramble at you a bunch I will just send this amazing write up - Three Pillars: Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria
Summary from the link -
"RSD is an extreme (dysphoria means “difficult to bear”) emotional reaction to the perception of rejection, failure, or criticism – regardless of the circumstantial reality."
I think the key part is the 'perception' part, cos RSD can kick off hard even when we aren't actually experiencing rejection, but it just feels like we are.
05-10-2025 06:33 PM
05-10-2025 06:33 PM
Hello my sweet @Bunniekins, it hasn't been a bad day but I'm exhausted. Hope you've had a good day. Love you beautiful ❤️
05-10-2025 06:48 PM
05-10-2025 07:00 PM
05-10-2025 07:00 PM
@Glisten darling I would take those boulders from your shoulders if I had my way.
My shoulders and back have been really painful the past couple of days and I ended up buying a massage pad for my office chair and a shoulder massager. The chair mat is to replace the one I had, forgot to take the batteries out and they went all yicky and ecky. Oops. It works well as a light massage for the back and shoulders.\
The shoulder massager looks scary and painful, I think I'll wait until my shoulders aren't hurting before I try it out.
How was your Saturday? I had a technology ban so that I could focus on other things. I did my bible study, listened to music and TV whilst doing my diamond painting and looked wistfully out the window as it rained, wishing I was out there pottering around the pots.
Tonight I plan to cook the intricate Chiko Roll in the air fryer. I will need plenty of concentration for that job.
What have you been up to? Did I tell you the lovely @avant-garde named a teddy after me? I felt so honoured and blessed. The teddy is gorgeous. I love teddies.
Hopefully I'll get to the nursery or Funnings after I get paid so I can get some more plants. I have a couple to add to the collection. Instead of a Zen Garden, I shall have the Sane Garden.
Mr MM sends his....well his version of like (meow, mrow mrow, purr purr)
And I send my loves 😍
05-10-2025 07:02 PM
05-10-2025 07:02 PM
@Jynx oooh thanks for sharing that link darling Jynxy. That is definitely a thread I want to read more about. Look at you, all this and much brains too. You're the full package 😘
05-10-2025 07:06 PM
05-10-2025 07:06 PM
Love these @Mustang67 thanks so much for sharing ❤️
05-10-2025 07:07 PM
05-10-2025 07:07 PM
@Jynx @REDLINEZ750 @Blackcloud after having read what the three of you shared about RSD. I have come to the conclusion that that I must have the opposite.
There are a LOT of people you think are ok, and then they creepy-weird you out.
Me:👋🏼 No thanks I don’t need any.💨
05-10-2025 07:31 PM
05-10-2025 07:31 PM
@ENKELI you always make me feel all giddy!! It's a gift, honestly 🥰💜
@Blackcloud what helps me a lot is whenever my anxiety or RSD is telling me that I am being rejected, I try to think of potential things that could also explain the behaviour e.g. if a friend cancels plans twice in a row that could get me pretty down, but if I sorta think well ok I know they've been burnt out and have a lot going on so maybe it really isn't because of me.
If the feelings persist, I will often reach out to them and say like, "hey my RSD is kicking up and I know it's not always logical but still could use a bit of reassurance after you've cancelled plans twice". Mostly people are sooo happy to explain and reassure and often will then put in extra effort towards the next plans.
Are....are you trying to invalidate my experiences...? How could you!!
or... wait.... MAYBE THAT'S MY RSD TALKING!!
Teehee I joke I joke. Anyway just tryna clarify, are you talking about like, when someone seems really nice but you instantly get a vibe from them and don't wanna interact? Or more like, people who seem too accepting at first often end up being off-putting?
05-10-2025 07:45 PM
05-10-2025 07:45 PM
@ENKELI I was driving back from Bully IGA and thought to myself, I hope my Retiisi started her day with Biblical reading 📖
It is noticeably good for you.
Oh my little angel your poor shoulders. Long term pain is horrible. I hope your massager does the trick and all the tension and pain goes far, far away, never to return.
It was peaceful to read your description of your Saturday. You wrote it so well, I could see it.
My Saturday was a bit less than average 🫤
I’m going to cook a bacon and egg wrap - damn forgot BBQ sauce.
I also need to send an email - keep forgetting.
I’ve got to work tomorrow. - Now I’m thinking about all the stuff I have to do in general.
Wait it’s bin day in K’up tomorrow morning. I can fill up my friend’s mom’s bin. She’s away on hols. Woohoo 🎉
And I can fill up my 10Ltr water tanks.
Best I pack the car now.
05-10-2025 07:53 PM
05-10-2025 07:53 PM
@Dreamy i love you too beautiful xxxx
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